A new normal?
As we start returning to work and school, can come out to have a coffee, go to the gym or pool, travel to visit other parts of the country, what will we want to keep in place?
Many people have noticed the positive aspects of the past few weeks: time with family, noticing the birds and the clean air, getting regular exercise. What will you keep in place as we move on? It can be helpful to think in terms of your values and consider how to incorporate them into your life as we all get busier.
Some will be in worse situations: perhaps you've lost your job, had family and financial stress, lost a loved one and not been able to grieve in the usual way. Take stock. Allow yourself time to notice and feel your reactions. Talk to someone you trust or seek help from a psychologist or counsellor. The Healthline number for free support is 1737.
Supporting your mental well-being during the covid crisis
Here are some sources of information and online tools to help you feel mentally well and get through.
- Getting Through Together is a mental well-being campaign focused on things we can all do to maintain our mental health and wellbeing during the COVID-19 pandemic (All Right? and the Mental Health Foundation)
- Looking after mental health and wellbeing during COVID-19 advice and information, and useful top tips to get through (Mental Health Foundation)
- Stories of people’s journeys to wellness and ideas to help you find your own way to better wellbeing (Depression.org.nz)
- Melon is an app with a health journal, resources and self-awareness tools to help you manage your emotional wellbeing. You can also join their online community to connect with and support others, and watch daily webinars about health and wellbeing (Melon Health)
- Mentemia is an app that you can use to monitor, manage and improve your mental wellbeing by setting daily goals and tracking your progress (Mentemia)
- Staying on Track is an e-therapy course that teaches you practical strategies to cope with the stress and disruption of day-to-day life (Just a Thought)
- Working through depression is a personalised online programme that focuses on positivity, lifestyle changes and problem solving (The Journal at Depression.org.nz)
- Working through problems with Aunty Dee is a tool to work through problems, generate ideas and find a solution (Le Va)
Self-help tools for young people
- Feeling down, worried or stressed (SPARX)
- Learn more about mental health issues (Mental Wealth)
- Recognising and understanding depression and anxiety (The Lowdown)
Concerned about your substance use and/or gambling?
During this time people may be looking to familiar habits or seeking out new ways to cope with feelings and situations. While alcohol or other drug (substance) use and / or gambling may seem like ways to cope, these behaviours can negatively impact many areas of our lives including our health, wairua (spirit), hinengaro (mind), relationships and overall wellbeing.
If you, or those around you, are concerned about your substance use and/or gambling, there are some great resources to help you identify if you need some extra support:
- Is your drinking ok? (Health Promotion Agency)
- Test your drug taking (Alcohol Drug Helpline)
- Test your gambling (Choice Not Chance)
(from NZ Ministry of Health Website www.health.govt.nz)
These are strange times and we need to be taking care of ourselves and those we love.
Here are a few tips from me for well-being at home.
1. Eat healthy food.
We are all stressed and want to stay well. Giver yourself the best shot at this by eating your vegetables, having three meals a day, drinking plenty of water and snacking on nuts or fruit. Well, fast food is out anyway...
2. Get some exercise.
There are yoga and gym workouts online, we are still allowed to walk and bike, kick a ball around the yard with the kids or pets, dance in your lounge like nobody's watching (yep, they aren't) . No excuse for emerging from this out of condition and overweight.
3. Do a short meditation or breathing exercise, at least daily.
There are apps and websites for this (Headspace, Calm.com). You can just sit quietly paying attention to your breath and listening to the sounds around you, or you can put on some calming music. We all feel scared of the unknown and are missing our usual routine, so staying calm is going to be really vital. Notice the present moment and don't let anxiety present you with a lot of worst case scenarios.
4. Keep in touch with friends and family.
Use the phone or whatever method or device works for you. Keep in touch but don't let it go into long angsty conversations about what could go wrong. Make sure you have a laugh and talk about other things than the virus. Pace yourself and don't hesitate to turn off the phone to do other things.
5. Limit your news consumption
Stay informed but don't get overwhelmed. Turn off media and focus on the present moment, checking in at particular times. Take time at the end of the day to wind down with a book or some music, a (non-apocalyptic) movie or a conversation with someone you love.
6. Find meaning
We all need to feel useful. Have some personal goals, write them down and check them off. Make a to do list for some chores at home. Look for online opportunities to volunteer your time or donate where you can. Take care of a friend or neighbour who needs a call or some shopping done. If you are caring for children at home, that's major, give yourself a pat on the back.
If you have a faith or a religious practice, keep it up even though you can't attend any groups at present. Some groups are having success with online video meetings and worship.
Remind yourself of your values and keep them intact over this time. We may not have a map for what is happening in the world right now, but our values are our personal map.
7. Have fun!
Sing, dance, look for jokes or comedy. Use your five senses to have enjoyable experiences: take a bubble bath, pick some scented flowers from your garden, do an art tour online, make some tasty treats, listen to music.
Kia kaha. Stay safe.